"Trust no friend with that you need to fear him if he was your enemy"
-George Herbert
Don't everyone just hate it when your best friend is being friendly to your enemy or the person whom you dislike the most? This feeling is the most annoying feeling in the world. You feel like you want to break everything into tiny pieces. You feel like punching the your friend. Moreover you feel like punching yourself because you think there is something you lack which is the reason why your bestie goes and talk to the most hated person, or a group of people, according to you.She just goes and vomits everything to the hated person or group that you feel like they have things can they can use against you. Sometimes its not only just one person who you hate the most, but its the whole group of your best friend's friends that you hate. There could be many reasons behind it:
1. You feel jealous- jealously does not only happens in relationships, it can make its way anywhere. jealously in friendship occurs when your best friend goes and talks to someone you hate or a group of people you hate. You feel left out. You feel like the person or the group ,who was a stranger yesterday, is taking your place in your best friends life. You feel like you are not important anymore to your bestie because your bestie is telling those things to the hated stranger or the hated group that she should be telling to you
2. something happened with them in your past- maybe you picked up a fight with someone or maybe your ex, you hate the person for what he did to you in past. This kind of hate is the strongest one. In this when your best friend goes and talks to the hated group, the volcano that was dormant, suddenly erupts and you are angry within a spilt second. This anger grows even more when your best friend is laughing or enjoying with them, more than she does with you
These are the indicators that you should go and console your best friend about how you feel about a specific person or a group of people. If your best friend understands your feeling behind it then its good for both of you. but if she don't, then its time to fine new best friend.
-George Herbert
Don't everyone just hate it when your best friend is being friendly to your enemy or the person whom you dislike the most? This feeling is the most annoying feeling in the world. You feel like you want to break everything into tiny pieces. You feel like punching the your friend. Moreover you feel like punching yourself because you think there is something you lack which is the reason why your bestie goes and talk to the most hated person, or a group of people, according to you.She just goes and vomits everything to the hated person or group that you feel like they have things can they can use against you. Sometimes its not only just one person who you hate the most, but its the whole group of your best friend's friends that you hate. There could be many reasons behind it:
1. You feel jealous- jealously does not only happens in relationships, it can make its way anywhere. jealously in friendship occurs when your best friend goes and talks to someone you hate or a group of people you hate. You feel left out. You feel like the person or the group ,who was a stranger yesterday, is taking your place in your best friends life. You feel like you are not important anymore to your bestie because your bestie is telling those things to the hated stranger or the hated group that she should be telling to you
2. something happened with them in your past- maybe you picked up a fight with someone or maybe your ex, you hate the person for what he did to you in past. This kind of hate is the strongest one. In this when your best friend goes and talks to the hated group, the volcano that was dormant, suddenly erupts and you are angry within a spilt second. This anger grows even more when your best friend is laughing or enjoying with them, more than she does with you
These are the indicators that you should go and console your best friend about how you feel about a specific person or a group of people. If your best friend understands your feeling behind it then its good for both of you. but if she don't, then its time to fine new best friend.
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